Hello Team
Good morning on the 19th of February 2010!!!
I had a meeting yesterday with a good friend and colleague of mine, Elizabeth Brown of http://alluneedislove.com.au Elizabeth is a Civil Marriage Celebrant.
We got around to chatting about relationships and marriage (as you do when talking with a Civil Marriage Celebrant!!!) It was interesting to note the perceptions about relationships and marriage that came up between the two of us. We noted that sometimes marriage and relationships don’t go to plan. So what do you do if it doesn’t go to plan? What if the love drops out for what feels like forever? What do you do if your marriage doesn’t meet your expectations? What if your partner doesn’t meet your expectations? What if occurrences happen in your relationship, like an affair, that you did not consciously invite in, and then what do you do then?
Why don’t we let The Team step in and discuss this!!!
Here we go:
“Relationships and marriage are a platform from which to grow, develop and expand from. Their purpose is to not contain the evolution of the individual. Rather the purpose is to be honoured to be invited to share the journey of your partner as you bear witness to their ever unfolding experience of bliss on earth. Being grateful and honoured at being part of this experience. On the earth so many rules and regulations in marriage and relationships keeps each person ‘stuck’ in one paradigm, not free to grow, develop and expand therefore it causes ‘out-lets’ to be sought. It is necessary to allow your partner to connect to whomever they are meant to connect to in order to facilitate their evolvement. We are not saying it is ok to deliberately and intentionally cause you pain. No. We are saying there needs to be a fluidity to allow the growth to occur. Commitment, love, honour and respect come from trusting and flowing with your individual path and that of your partners. There is not an abuse of the trust and faith in each other. There is no taking advantage of someone’s good nature for the betterment of the individual. No. If one is sincerely committed to walking one’s journey with their partner than anything on that path is divinely correct and is to be experienced as the partner walks it with them allowing them the space to experience, learn and grow and this gift is offered in return. Let the love be a fluid energy that provides the space for such evolvement. Then the relationship and marriage will be bliss. God Bless”
Thank you Team!!!
Ok it sounds like we are to not be so controlling in our relationships and marriage. Really in a relationship and marriage we are really there as an honour to share that part of that person’ journey. So we have been asked to engage with them on that stage of their life to share the space and enjoy the experience together. It is not making a bond of love that is restrictive or containable. It is about choosing each moment to choose to be with that person and enjoy the day together. For who knows what the next day might bring? You may walk a day with someone and that is all you are meant to. It may be a few months, or a few years or all your life!!! Whatever is ‘right’ for you and your partner is ‘right’ for you and your partner. You may walk together closely then walk far apart for a while then walk together closely again. It is your choice.
But do not make a bond of the love that kills and stifles you both energetically. You can constantly reassess and reinvent and re-establish your relationship and marriage at any point. Especially if you feel like you have hit a rough patch!!!!
A rough patch is not bad. What counts is getting past the sticking point of a rough patch and doing it in style and grace without hurting each other unnecessarily, to maintain your integrity and the integrity of the relationship or marriage. For no matter what your partner is not your punching bag and neither are you theirs. Whether you remain together or not you need to always be able to communicate and work through the rough patches!!! So this is what I suggest!!!
• The rough patch is often just one life cycle ending and another being. So it is all ‘Perfect’. As one season ends another starts. It is nature and in the flow of growth and development. So firstly change your mindset and embrace the season change with ‘Perfect. It is Perfect. Thank you for Everything’.
• As your perspective shifts this allows you to ‘see’ and ‘get’ exactly what is happening in your relationship at the moment. What is coming to the end? What is coming in to take its place? What is the true cause of the shift in your relationship? What you are wanting to by-pass here is you just taking it personally therefore reacting from this personal hurt therefore making decisions based on your assumption that it is ‘all because of you’ therefore possibly hurting the relationship unnecessarily.
• Allow the answers to come to you as universal ‘nudges’. You will be guided from the inside out to ‘live’ the answer in your experience. For example, you are upset because all of a sudden your partner has become cold and distant. You feel disconnected and scared because you feel like your partner has ‘gone’ even though you are still living under one roof. So you tell yourself it is a life cycle change so it is all ‘Perfect’ as you so do you ask yourself ‘what is really going on here?’ Then within a day you read an article in the newspaper about mid-life crisis in men at the age of 40-45 years old and it explains everything. So you give your partner loving space to ‘cave it’ until they are ready to come out.
Your goal is to not just end the relationship from emotion and misunderstanding. Best to allow your decisions and actions to be based on sense, wisdom and intelligence on all levels. Therefore the individuals in the relationship can expand and grow without the dramatic ending of the relationship and marriage and all the hurt and pain that involves.
Now there is the chance that at some stage the wisest decision is to end the relationship or marriage because it is best for each soul to do so. The ‘contract’ of that moment is complete therefore it is divinely correct to let it go.
I suggest though that if you are experiencing a rough patch that you get help and support to work it all through to make sure it becomes a magnificent healing and growth opportunity for you both without necessarily having to end the relationship or marriage.
I have been asked by Fay Frischer, Lawyer extraordinaire, to speak on relationships, marriage and ‘what to do’ when faced with a rough patch!!!
I have included the details of the day below for those that would like to hear more about ‘what to do’ when the going get’s tough!!!
SECRET WOMEN’S BUSINESS
Ladies let us discuss: RELATIONSHIP BREAKDOWN
Relationships are tricky. How do you sort out the difficulties of a relationship? You feel lonely, lost and uncertain. The love you shared has gone wrong. You are like two strangers living under the same roof.
What do you do? How do you sort out the children? How do you divide your assets? How do you pay your bills? How do you cope?
JOANNE PRIOR, Life Mentor, and FAY FRISCHER, family law solicitor, invite you to attend a COMPLIMENTARY INFORMATION SEMINAR to provide you with the skills and abilities to:
• Clear your mind and gain a perspective that will assist you to make wise and well thought out choices for your future
• Explore your options as to parenting, property division and divorce
• Re-establish your emotional balance during this period of difficulty
When: 20 March 2010
Where: Stanton Library Conference Room at 234 Miller Street North Sydney
Time: 2.00pm-4.00pm
Bookings and enquires to be forwarded to Fay Frischer
M: 0416 196 541
E: fayfrischer@lawyerlanecove.com.au
You can find us on our websites:
http://www.joanneprior.com
http://www.lawyerlanecove.com.au
This is an opportunity to get increasing support to make sure that no matter what you decide to do in your marriage or relationship that you and your partner come out of it perfectly taken care of!!!
Thank you to my MMP clients who have been so supportive of my recent blogs!!!
It has all been such a miraculous process these past few days being able to channel about these issues in life that face so many of us!!!
If you would like to better your relationship, to bring back the love, to ignite the passion, to fall in love all over again, to find that common ground of mutual love, honour and respect again, to reset your commitment based on where you are now and where you are not headed then feel free to call me and we will book you in with The Team to set your new ‘contract’ with your partner. If there is ‘baggage’ there on both sides causing it tricky to feel connected and work together then we will clear the space for you both to come back together as ‘two beings of light being the light together’.
Your relationship and marriage is worth the investment. An Intuitive Insight Session will open the door to the new and what is possible. Your Magnificent Mindset Package (which is 20 sessions of success for you) walks you into living your success in real and tangible ways!!! Either way give yourself, your life, your relationship or marriage the chance to ‘Up-level’ to greater heights.
One of my MMP clients came to me about her marriage. She has diligently peeled away her layers to be authentically ‘The Light’ with her partner. The Team have now working with him in their unique way ‘in the cave’ to help him find his way. To meet her half-way. It is all possible to find each other again if you feel like you have lost the authentic connection.
I will hear from you soon on +61 2 9531 6752 and jo@joanneprior.com
Yours always, J and TT xxx
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