Day 35 – In The Success of 2010

Now Team as I stand on the threshold of the 17th of March 2010 as the 16th of March 2010 draws to a close. I want to share with you an experience that occurred to me today.

I was working with an MMMP client of mine who is a client who has virtually been with me for life. This client is completely committed to living her life in congruence. And what I mean by this she is always looking for ‘the way’ to live that is going to ensure she lives safe, well, enriched, at peace, fulfilled, satisfied and abundant in every possible way.

A life situation occurred for her this week that she was not prepared for. It threw her completely. She was shocked and startled. Her world was rocked. She felt out of control, like she had no control, the fabric of her life was challenged and her trust and faith in the safety and security of life was shaken.

Now the reason I am sharing this with you is because this happens all the time to us all. Life isn’t about living in a fairytale picture. Life is about holding the space of peace, trust, faith and belief in the face of all the challenges posed. It is about ‘what can I do with these challenges? How can I make these challenges work for me?’

Life isn’t really a bed of roses for everyone is it? Why? Because we wouldn’t have any reason to reach or stretch for more, or for answers or solutions or gain a greater or deeper understanding if it was all so easy. The challenges are ever day. How often has this happened to you, you decide to take a course of action. You feel in your gut that it is ‘right’. You check in with the experts or people in your life that you trust and admire their good opinion and they agree ‘good idea’. You look at research, at what others are doing until you get a sense that ‘Yep, this seems like a great idea’. So you take the step. Then it all blows up in your face. You can’t believe it. It didn’t work out how you expected. You are left feeling confused, uncertain and you don’t know what to do now. You question yourself and recriminate about the choices you made. ‘How could you of been so wrong???’ you ask yourself. You just don’t understand. You trust, faith and belief in yourself wavers and you wonder how can you trust yourself, life and the path again. You then feel very vulnerable. Your willingness to further embrace life and options diminishes to a degree and your willingness to move forward drops. You close up and close off and end up living in a way that feels like a life half lived. But it is safe and free from catastrophe.

Now this may sound a little dramatic. Most of us don’t always reach this extreme point of despair, but a lot of us do.

This is what my client was faced with. She had made all the ‘right’ decisions and choices then something ‘bad’ happened. So what do you do then??? What do you do when you are in despair? When life has sent you challenges you never thought would ever happen for you? When you are faced with a reality that could ruin your life in every possible way? What do you do?

Well my MMMP client called me first. Why? Because she needed to get her head clear and focus her mind on precisely what was truly going in this life circumstance and how best for her to deal with it. The Team guided her through her perception turnaround from ‘disaster’ thinking to ‘Perfect’ thinking. Once our client was ‘seeing’ the situation for what it truly was she took control and took the ‘right’ action and the situation began to diffuse. Today we spoke to her, 4 days later, and she is ‘past the drama’ and in the flow of the sanity.

What she said she ‘got’ out of the experience was:

• You have no control over what is going to happen in your life. All you have control over is your ability to navigate the challenges in a way that ensure you don’t get stuck in the challenge and can move successfully into the next phase of life without causing undue damage or heartache.
• That no matter what if you hold the trust, faith and belief and follow this through the ‘drama’ you will be lead to a better and safer place.
• That even in the drama you can feel the discomfort of the anxiety, stress and heartache and still ‘know’ that you are being perfectly taken care of.
• That it is not about stopping the ‘bad’ stuff happening it is what you do with the ‘bad’ stuff that counts.
• Don’t make the ‘bad’ stuff the sticking point, learn from it and move on.

Now I don’t want to sound doom and gloom here!!!

But the challenges are constant, it is how you deal with them that makes or breaks your ability to thrive and get ahead. My client came out of this situation with:

• The skills and abilities to create a deeper and stronger love in her relationships.
• A reconnection to her partner never before felt.
• Peace of mind.
• Increased confidence in her abilities to take care of herself and her family.

Life is like the Olympic Games. It is a series of extreme challenges to test you to your maximum to see if you have what it takes to be a champion. The training for this we do all day, everyday. It is tiring and exhausting at some points. There are no guarantees of success. All there is, is diligent commitment and effort and possibly you will make it. But guess what? There are so many wins along the way!!! That the ultimate win by the end, who cares!!! Why? Because along the way you will of met all the people who love, care and cherish you for who you are. They are there on the path to support you and help you be the magnificent person that you are. Along the way you make all the money you need to take perfect care of you and your family so you fulfil that role perfectly!!! Your training means you have perfect opportunity to take really good care of yourself for hey you are an athlete and that’s what athletes do. They take perfect care of themselves. Their needs are top priority number one. So they eat, exercise and rest. For they know they can’t compete in the games if they don’t do this. They know they can’t walk the path and achieve everything without this. So they walk the ‘Perfect Care’ path so they can do all they have to. Standing on the podium isn’t really it. It is great if it happens. But the wins are actually happening now and if you focus too much on the end result you will miss what you have available to you right now.

It is the path that counts. It is what you have right in this moment that counts the most. The rest, who knows. It will be perfect, whatever it is. But whatever it is, is whatever it is. All you have is the now. Make the most of it. Stop waiting for your success. Stop waiting for yourself to be thinner, richer, more loveable. Don’t wait for the perfect man or the perfect person to arrive. Live now. For what you have right now is perfect. See it, give thanks for it and the rest…. will be perfect.

It already is perfect. It already is working out perfectly. All your choices and decisions have been perfect. Even if you don’t judge them to be so at this moment. At some point you will see that they are. Don’t wait until you die before you stop recriminating and judging yourself. Accept that it is perfect now and life from this now. Confident that the future will be as perfectly taken care of as the past has been.

Now if ‘bad’ has happened in the past. It doesn’t mean the future will be a repeat of that. No. Who says it is? Who says that is how it works? This is a new year. A new day. A new moment. It will only be the same if you think it will be.

I heard on the news today (which you know is rare that I even watched it for I never watch the news normally) that the financial markets in Australia are trading strong now. The drama of last years financial ‘reshuffle’ is gone. So 2010 is not a repeat of 2009. So no more fear about this. 2009 was perfect for it levelled life at a sustainable platform for wealth from an authentic level could grow. Those that embraced this challenge and opened their minds to the new opportunities have and are doing well. Those that stayed caught in the old stayed struggling in the old.

Don’t make 2010 the same as 2009. It is not. It is a ‘Strong Year’ a ‘Vibrant Year’. Allow it to be so for you.

To stay composed in the face of shock, uncertainty and instability this is what I suggest:

• Allow yourself to have your human reaction first. Call someone who you know is not going to perpetuate the drama but is able to listen and guide you into the answer to ‘what is really going on here?’
• Once you have asked this question you click straight into moving the situation into a safer zone. A safer zone is gaining the facts so that a plan of action can be formulated.
• Once the immediate action plan is formulated it can be acted upon.

These steps can be followed repeatedly until you have moved into a space that feels safe, secure and stable again. With the added wisdom gained that then allows you navigate the path more strongly and securely next time.

Life isn’t about avoiding the pot-holes it is about having the skills and abilities to jump them. But if you do jump and fall down one then you have the skill and ability to climb back out straight away and keep jumping!!!

Embrace life, with no guarantees and you will love and appreciate each moment for it as it is. It doesn’t mean you don’t dream your dreams. You do. But you live your path and love it for what it is and whatever The Light of you chooses to deliver you live that. For it will be perfect in every possible way.

I hope this helps.

God bless.

J and TT xxx